Something in the Way She Moves – Why Women are the Key to Happiness

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By Mark A. Leon

As a man, I can say comfortably that we are simple folk. We have simple common ways of thinking, actions and thought. We are the hunters and gatherers, the quiet communicators, the competitive spirits and the comforting companions. We think sensibly and act progressively. We are the backbone and the cornerstone of progress, but history will dictate, as well as the future, that we are billions of empty souls wondering aimlessly through life without the blood that makes our heart pump.

That blood with its nutrients and fortified vitamins of life is the women that gives us the guidance, confidence and strength.

Women are:

  • Irrational (in such a good way.? It leads to disruption, then change, then innovation)
  • Emotional
  • Passionate
  • Intuitive
  • Nurturing
  • Comforting and protective
  • Strong
  • Emotionally centered while always thinking outside the box
  • Crazy and neurotic in a way that makes them irresistible
  • Sexy
  • Scholarly
  • Heroes without the need for recognition
  • Patient to our needs
  • Prepared in times of danger
  • Always there with open arms

When I think about the women in my life, from infancy to adulthood, so many flash through the theater inside my head. From mothers, to sisters, to teachers, to girlfriends, to lovers, to companions, to friends, to strangers and beyond.

Each one has left something behind. ?Something meaningful that has sculpted my entire being.

Let me be the first to say, women are crazy. Crazy in the amazing, cannot stop thinking about them kind of way. ?Some in their words and others in their actions.

There isn’t a decision in my life that has not been powered by the influence of a woman. ?Think about every aspect of your life.

What does your life entail?

  • Careers
  • Goals
  • Dreams
  • Sports
  • Family
  • Education
  • Hobbies
  • Travel
  • Dating / Marriage / Partnership
  • Friendship
  • Arts (Writing / Photography / Film / Theater)
  • Nurturing (Hospitals / Clinics / Nurses)
  • Teamwork

How many of the above bullet points in your life are heavily influenced or assisted by the hand of a woman?

I thought so.

Why then do I still continue to hear so many stories of corporate prejudice, domestic violence, divorce, social inequity, emotional withdrawal and genders divided?

I wish I knew the answer, but unfortunately, like so many of my fellow inhabitants of this earth, we are lost for a resolution.

I am going to leave you with this:

Love is the defining core of the good in humanity. ?It is a simple gesture, a warm thought, a kind act. ?It is as easy as the feel of a human touch and as lasting as the depths of the universe. ?Accept the perfection that is in women and embrace all they have to offer.

They are our reason for living and the core of our being.

When you find a woman that is beautiful inside and out and she gives herself to you in some capacity, accept, embrace and give back equally.

You will find yourself in a much better place in the end.

Take the Charleston Pledge

We are calling on all Charlestonians, far and wide to stand together in solidarity and take the Charleston pledge with us.

Charleston Pledge

I ______________ take the Charleston pledge today.? As part of my commitment to making the City of Charleston healthy, clean, harmonious and warm, I

  • Pledge to always use my turn signal when I am making a turn in my vehicle
  • Pledge to never toss a cigarette or ash from my car window while I am driving
  • Pledge to never take up the entire sidewalk while walking downtown and respecting those other walkers around me
  • Pledge to not stop driving in the middle of the road to take a picture of a house or carriage
  • Pledge to never drink and drive, so we can help reduce the number of driving fatalities and keep the roadways safe for everyone
  • Pledge to not verbally attack someone a social platform because they have an opinion or thought that differs from you
  • Pledge to accept everyone who lives here for who they are, regardless of where they were born
  • Pledge to keep our beaches and parks clean by removing everything we came in with and remove trash you may see
  • Pledge to walk only in the appropriate cross walks and not jaywalk causing potential dangers for drivers
  • Pledge to share the roads, respecting all bikers, walkers, rickshaws and carriages
  • Pledge to treat all members of the community with the same respect, whether they live on the East Side, Westside, North, French Quarter or West Ashley
  • Pledge to remember the small businesses that built this great city who are now fighting for their personal livelihood

If each of us takes this pledge, we can ensure a safe and happy future for ourselves, our children and generations to come.

Do you know how to save a life?

By Mark A. Leon
By Mark A. Leon

We are all alone wandering the world, one interaction at a time. We are born into this mystery of existence for a finite time and enter a new plane of being alone. During the moment between the first and final breath, we will make decisions, take risks and question. We will each fall and pick up the pieces to live another day.

Each moment, a new encounter; a new perspective.

Have you touched a soul so deeply that the connection changed them forever? Have you ever saved a life? Have you ever guided someone that lacked directly; giving them hope with an outstretched hand; finding promise in the darkest hour?

The greatest wealth in life is the grand gesture; the selfish act of kindness led by a pure reaction of energy fueled by love.

A decade later, we no longer talk of the destruction of September 11 but the individual stories of courage and triumph that will live on and serve as a benchmark for true heroism.

So many of us go undiscovered

So many unfulfilled

So many longing to be needed; to be yearned for.

The sign of love is not the Tiffany necklace but the way he looks in your eyes when he puts it around the soft circle of your neck. Do you know how to save a life?

Can you deal with the responsibility of seeking out a lonely heart and giving it protection, nurturing and love?

The ability to save is only achieved when:

  • You have the strength to believe you can
  • You accept that an act of heroism is simple and true
  • You no longer look in the mirror and see yourself
  • You see the act of kindness as a mutual bond and the energy shared is a power greater than the energy of one
  • You believe in something much greater than yourself
  • The music never stops playing. ?It is a heartbeat, a songbird, a thank you from someone less fortunate who was blessed with your kindness.
  • You find light in a field of darkness

This is a responsibility more important and difficult than any job. This is one where the greatest reward is lifting someone to a better place.

Happy Earth Day: It’s Time We Found Our Humanity

By Mark A. Leon
By Mark A. Leon

Now that I have your full attention, it is time we bring attention to a very delicate matter that hits many of us close to home: ?the decaying of humanity!

You heard me. ?Many are quick to blame everyone and everything except ourselves.

It must be corporate greed

No, blame Facebook for providing an isolated window from human interaction

Better yet, blame smartphones for allow us to break up via text

We need to include GPS systems to reinforce that Big Brother is watching

Who can leave out reality TV. ?If every occupation and household is a reality show, what exactly is reality…More importantly, what are we?

I know, everything is a phase or a trend, like Rubik’s Cube, MySpace and Boy Bands…Rubik’s Cube became Tetris, MySpace became Facebook and Boy Bands, well we can’t get rid of them (Thank you Marky Mark). ?So if history is deemed to repeat itself with each generation, we are safe; but if technology is slowly skewing us in the wrong direction of moral humanity and we keep repeating the same mistakes…BOOM! ?What then?

For centuries, territorialism and religion have been blamed for thousands of senseless deaths.

The media, let’s talk about the media. ?They glamorize looks and money and provide millions of innocent viewers with a less than perfect image of themselves which leads to depression, dangerous health habits and for some, suicide.

Let’s look even deeper to the multi-billion dollar world of gaming…Oh yes, don’t go hiding your Play Station or X Box now. Let us take a moment to dissect

Here is a list of the top selling X Box and PlayStation games of all time:

Halo 2
Halo: Combat Evolved
Tom Clancy’s Splinter Cell
Project Gotham Racing
Grand Theft Auto Double Pack
Star Wars: Knights of the Old Republic
Grand Theft Auto: San Andreas
Need for Speed: Underground 2
Call of Duty 2: Big Red One

Correct me if I am wrong, but I see a theme that is present in many of these titles: Violence and death.

Gender, we cannot leave out the age old genetic dilemma that men and women are inherently different. Personality, emotions, passions and physical make up are all unique and separate qualities. There are exceptions, but for the near future, let us accept that for the remainder of mankind we will have to learn to deal with those differences.

Music, music music. It is the soundtrack of our lives and the power of words has the ability to translate to the power of perception. Are we influenced by lyrics in rap and death metal? Perhaps that is a factor as well.

“And the people bowed and prayed
To the neon god they made
And the sign flashed out its warning
In the words that it was forming
And the sign said, “The words of the prophets are written on the subway walls
And tenement halls”
And whispered in the sounds of silence”

– Written in 1964, this classic by Simon & Garfunkel spoke of a world today 47 years ago

The internet…The most powerful mastermind of covert activity. You can be anyone and anything you want on the internet. You can be an eighty-year old man who can transform to an eighteen year old prom queen. Or a janitor becoming a CEO. The magic to transform can take on a life of its own..Be careful, do you know who you are talking to.

I was watching the news last evening and the newscaster said “Stay tuned, this next story could very well restore your faith in humanity”. Did we lose faith in humanity at some point? That was a profound statement to an audience in the New York City area of potentially millions to assume they have lost the belief that there is good in the world. That got me thinking, am I an optimist or a pessimist? Has reality, technology, sensationalism, violence, civil unrest, death, greed, power, recession, poverty, disease and loneliness numbed my senses and restricted my ability to feel?

I hope not. There is so much good out there, everywhere we turn.
Each spring the flowers blossom and there are colors everywhere you turn.
Each generation, children are filled with imagination and wonder.
Dreamers continue to dream and achievers teach us that there are no limits.

As we celebrate Mother Earth today, remember it is not a single day to reflect on what is good, but a 24 hour reminder that we should always focus on each and every living thing that makes this ecosystem so wonderful.